She Says: Leftover Monday
Good evening everyone! How was your day? Mine started off on the wrong foot because I set my alarm for p.m., so I had to get dressed and out the door in only 20 minutes as opposed to the 45 I’ve been taking to have my coffee, read my blogs, get dressed, etc. I didn’t get to have my morning coffee or do any of my morning things, but it turned out to be a fun and regular Monday. My project about compound eyes went very well. The kids in the class have been learning about insects and today they looked through kaleidoscopes to simulate what it’s like to have insect eyes. They thought it was lots of fun.
When I got home I did my running thing. After I ran, I walked on the treadmill while reading my new Cooking Light. I always start a magazine from the back. I flip through and then when I get to the front, I start all over!
When my magazine reading was complete, I had a dinner based on leftovers. I had wasting food and luckily enjoy leftovers. Tonight I had leftover pumpkin rice, leftover peppers and onions, new roasted carrots and a Banana Sweet Potato Muffin. Or two.
Long Distance Things
I just read this little article from Women’s Health about how technology can help long distance couples stay in touch. As you know, Mark lives in N.J. and I live in R.I. We don’t get to see each other very often, so we have to rely on technology to communicate. One way is on the blog! We also send emails and pictures on our phones. Of course there is no substitute for the real thing, but these fun, quick ways of keeping in touch help out. Do you have any tips for long distance relationships?
Tags: carrots, Christopher Robin, leftovers, muffin
November 17th, 2008 at 10:54 pm
I wish I had advice for long distance… I know that you have to completely trust the person, or else stupid insecurities get in the way by causing fights over silly things. Every chance you get to talk to that person should be cherished/relished/savoured because its hard enough not being able to physically be with them, spending any amount of time arguing is just not worth it.
Props on the Pumpkin muffins – i would’ve eaten two as well had I been motivated enough to make them in the first place!
November 17th, 2008 at 10:54 pm
My last semester of college, Brent had already moved to LA. We did the best we could with email, phone, and actual written love letters (not Brent’s idea).
But he was not a phone person, so I lived for the weekend when I would fly out there to see him. I was very thankful it was only like 5 months!
November 17th, 2008 at 11:05 pm
Always setup future times to see each other so you have something to look forward to!
November 17th, 2008 at 11:08 pm
We have lots of long distance experience! I have been calling Graham when I wake up and he’s on his way to work – it’s nice to talk in the morning!
November 17th, 2008 at 11:11 pm
If you have any teaching tips or stories- please share! I am so curious to hear about what it is like to have your own classroom…it’s going to be here before I know it.
And, I have totally done the am/pm switch up with my alarm many times- not fun!
Good night!
November 17th, 2008 at 11:13 pm
Ugh I hate it when I do that to my alarm, usually I’m so paranoid that I check it at least ten time before I go to sleep…
haha! I love how you read magazines, I usually flip through them AT LEAST 3 times too!
Long distance relationships are pretty much unknown territory to me, but it seems like y’all are on the right track with the blog and things. Pretty cool way to keep in touch!
November 17th, 2008 at 11:21 pm
I’m not in a long distance relationship, but I like to randomly send e-cards to let my bf know I’m thinking about him and hopefully make him smile. This site has a lot of funny ones – http://www.someecards.com.
November 17th, 2008 at 11:47 pm
sorry, no long distance relationship advice from me…i was in one for 7.5 years…and it didn’t end pretty because we never saw each other, very little communication, etc…was a sad and lonely 7.5 yrs. but i’m glad you do what you do do because as long as it works, that’s wonderful!
and love the eats…and the yummy muffin.
November 17th, 2008 at 11:53 pm
SNAIL MAIL.
When I had a long distance relationship my boyfriend and I wrote really long letters to each other and sent photos and such too (in addition to emails/occasional phone calls). It was cute and fun:)
Your banana sweet potato muffins sound intriguing!
November 18th, 2008 at 12:28 am
I did the EXACT same thing today! I set my alarm for PM, but thank goodness I was having weird dreams or else I wouldn’t have woken up.
Sorry you had an off morning
that muffin looks delicious, I should make some for Thanksgiving
November 18th, 2008 at 12:36 am
My sister and her hubs (married 6 years and counting) met 3 days before he moved to 1,000 miles away. Since he was in the Navy, she wrote him letters while he went out to sea. She still has ‘em (aww!). I know they tried to see each other every couple of months…it gave them something to look forward to. Thank goodness for technology now, though!!
I <3 muffins and now I want those.
November 18th, 2008 at 1:00 am
Great eats for the day. And I want one of the muffins!
As for the long-distance thing, I think it is important too continually keep in touch, and it seems like you two are doing fine!
November 18th, 2008 at 1:24 am
Ooo banana sweet potato muffins…
When Bobby and I were long distance (a few months this past spring) we did a lot of video chatting because we both have macs and it was really easy. Back in college over the summers and breaks we would just talk on the phone a lot and try to talk as often as we could (before we had macs). We’ve never gone a day without talking. It’s really hard
November 18th, 2008 at 1:39 am
I think one of the hardest things about long distance is missing out on doing things together. Talking is great, but sometimes you want to spend time with someone and don’t have a lot to talk about. MSN messenger has a feature that lets you play board games with whoever you are chatting with, and the husband and I used to use that. We would talk on our webcams and play a game together…it was very nice.
November 18th, 2008 at 1:45 am
So cool about the insects – thanks for sharing! I love hearing about your work with kids. And I also found it fascinating that you read the magazine from the back.
Last fall I did a required internship for my major and chose to do it in AZ so I could live at home. It was the first time I had been long distance from Bobby and it was really weird because we’d seen each other almost every weekday since high school. There was definitely a lot of yucky moments where insecurities got the best of me that I try my best to forget, but we actually did use technology – via web cam – to chat and it was SO nice to hear AND see. I’d highly recommend a web cam, if you don’t have one already!
November 18th, 2008 at 6:25 am
sorry about the alarm, but at least you did wake up on time!
so interesting to begin to read the mag from the back……. I usually have an overview first and then go to the articles, but I might try to do the overview from the back next time.
I also have a long long distance relationship. I’m in US and my bf is in Argentina. As we have a solid relationship we just talk by tel. couple times a week. He visits my blog so he knows exactly what I do/eat/think. And we see each other twice or three times a year. Fortunately it worked for us the last two years and half. Trust, understanding are the most important thing I think, more than the technology.
November 18th, 2008 at 7:37 am
I lived away from my husband once or 5 months and LOVED skype video…is that still free?
November 18th, 2008 at 7:51 am
Megan: I am only the student teacher, but I definitely have good stories I’ll share.
Ashley: Thanks for that site!
Hil: I agree! Sometimes you have nothing to say! Nothing beats a good old fashion stroll around the mall like teenagers.
Coco: I like to start at the back because then when you are at the front it’s like a whole new magazine experience!
November 18th, 2008 at 8:10 am
I agree totally about the snail mail thing…its much more romantic than email!
How did I not know you’re a student teacher!? I must not read carefully… I teach too!
November 18th, 2008 at 8:37 am
Eek!! I’m glad that your day got better as it went on – hope your Tuesday is starting off “on the right foot”!!
November 18th, 2008 at 9:20 am
Talk as much as you can! Hubs and I went to diff colleges (7 hours apart) and we talked on the phone everyday. And this was back when cellphones were not popular (and the internet was just really some email)so everyone had calling cards and if you got a calling card that only charged 10cents a minute that was like striking gold! Also when we were on breaks, I was in Pittsburgh and he was in Philly and we still talked everyday. People gave us crap for it, “Haven’t you run out of things to say?!” but it worked for us and helped us stay connected.
November 18th, 2008 at 9:34 am
I think care packages are fun to receive and give when you are in a long distance relationship. However, I found that I sent more than I received… but Isaac liked them!
Also, when you go to visit leaving notes in placing the other will find after you have gone is always fun.
November 18th, 2008 at 9:47 am
I hope your Tuesday has started better than your Monday! My mom does the same thing with magazines haha
November 18th, 2008 at 9:50 am
Sorry about the alarm
Hope today is going better!
November 18th, 2008 at 9:55 am
I hear you Heather. Long distance is HARD!
I have found that these things help PB and I:
-sending pics to each other (like you and Mark too)
-gmail chat
-planning our weekends months in advance so we know we won’t have to go long without seeing one another!
But I am kind of in a different situation. PB and I know see each other 3 weekends out of 4 so we are really lucky.
I think it is important to make a point to CONNECT. Have a phone date at night when you’re not also watching tv/cooking/cleaning etc. Just you, your phone, and the beautiful voice on the other end.
November 18th, 2008 at 9:57 am
My husband (then boyfriend) dated long distance for a year (he was in Boston, I was in NY). We traveled to see each other a lot (only missed 2 weekends in 1 year) and I think that was key. It’s such a tough thing… and gets very tiring. It looks like you guys are doing great, though! Technology is definitely amazing for that
November 18th, 2008 at 9:58 am
Oh yeah, we talked on the phone every night!
November 18th, 2008 at 12:07 pm
Your left over dinner looks pretty darn good!
I didn’t realize you are Mark didn’t live together! Mike and I did long distances for 2 out of our 5 years we dated together. We just called each other a lot and took lots of goofy pics on our phones – not exciting or “new” tips – just thought i’d share!
November 18th, 2008 at 12:15 pm
Between college and moving in together me and my boyfriend were long distance for about 2 months, I was on long island and him in NJ. We used IChat to video chat and also texted all day long. We also emailed each other all day while at work. Although I hated being long distance it made everytime we saw each other a little more special
November 18th, 2008 at 12:42 pm
Glad you like the e-cards! They’re hilarious.
November 18th, 2008 at 1:35 pm
i have to hand it to long distance couples cause Id go nuts. I wouldnt distrust them, otherwise i wouldnt be in the relationship, but i need my snuggle time
Kelly Turner
http://www.groundedfitness.com
November 18th, 2008 at 2:01 pm
I love this little video, Heather. The acting is good but I am sure you & Mark could do better!! I am in a long term relationship with the B/F….and we are both in college. A lot of people tell us it will not work out, and what we are doing is a “waste of time”…but we really love each other and that is enough for us to stay together.
November 18th, 2008 at 2:08 pm
long distance can be tough. I found that seeing the other person’s face and talking often helps. Technology helps so much with staying in constant contact and even being able to see each other through a webcam. I say making a point to see each other as often as possible on weekends helps too – always something to look forward too!
November 18th, 2008 at 2:29 pm
iChat (or something similar that lets you see the person). It’s a little weird, but it really saved us when I was in Paris. Now things are a little harder, even though we’re in the same country, because he’s so busy and we’re on completely different schedules… So I’m glad you posted this question, I could use some tips, too
November 18th, 2008 at 2:53 pm
future husband and i were LD for a year, and it sucked, so i feel your pain. we made an effort to call each other everyday (multiple times) and we also sent each other packages, flowers, and gifts in the mail.
November 18th, 2008 at 2:56 pm
Grr … I hate running late in the mornings! That’s my absolute favorite time of the day!!
I’ve never had a LDR, so I can’t be any help there – sounds like you guys do a great job! Technology certainly does help!!
Have a great day!
November 18th, 2008 at 4:48 pm
For some reason I thought you and Mark lived together. I guess I was extremely wrong.
My boyfriend lives about 3 hours away and while we’ve actually had an unprecedented 3 weekends in a row together, medical school usually keeps him busier and we see each other less. We talk on the phone every day, but I think the real secret is that neither of us has jealousy issues and we both have our own interests to keep us busy.
November 18th, 2008 at 5:00 pm
How funny are you with your magazine!
Andrea and I SERIOUSLY want to meet you.
November 18th, 2008 at 5:04 pm
I’m drooling over the pumpkin rice…
The long distance thing is HARD. Just staying in constant contact is the best tip I can come up with- calls, emails, letters, texts, etc. Sorry, I know that’s uncreative and boring!
November 18th, 2008 at 6:27 pm
I totally value my morning time. I wake up extra early just to have it. I sacrifice great sleeping time for lovely morning time. I HATE rushing through my mornings.
Kudos to you for a successful long distance relationship. I honestly don’t know how well I would deal with something like that. I can only imagine it being pretty tough, that’s for sure.
November 18th, 2008 at 7:29 pm
LD is not a fun situation. I did it once, and it was just hard. Lots of phone calls and texts.
By the way, I gave you an award!
http://bitesoflife.wordpress.com/2008/11/18/awarded/
November 18th, 2008 at 7:58 pm
That’s a really cool looking mug. The food looks really yummy. I really look forward to leftovers because they give me a break from cooking dinner items so I can be lazy or make something I normally wouldn’t.
For long distance relationships, getting a note or care package in the mail is really nice.
November 18th, 2008 at 9:27 pm
im so sorry about having only 20 minutes to get ready. I hate feeling rushed.
that muffin looks so good!
November 18th, 2008 at 9:37 pm
I’ve never done the long distance thing, so I can’t help there. I just wanted to say that I love that you read magazines starting from the back! My mom used to do that with the newspaper and it drove me crazy!
November 18th, 2008 at 9:57 pm
Long distance relationships are super hard! Good job to both of you guys for making it work. I would so do video chat if I was away from the people I loved.
I check my alarm a bunch of times before I go to sleep too because I am afraid of doing that!
November 18th, 2008 at 10:28 pm
Long distance relationships are difficult, but the time you spend together you truly cherish.
Your muffins look so good! I’m going to try out that recipe!
November 18th, 2008 at 10:47 pm
just saw your comment. I used to bite my nails, for almost my whole life. But 2 months ago when I forced myself to stop biting it so I could get a manicure, once I saw my cute/beautiful nails, I just don’t bite it anymore! You might want to try it too! ^_^
November 19th, 2008 at 5:31 am
hey, i want my new cooking light! mine hasn’t come yet . . . but as a parallel yesterday i ran with ‘everyday with rachael ray.’
i really can’t imagine long distance . . . although my husband and i often do go 2-3 days without seeing each other because of our JOBS! he was on call tuesday and i am today, so that’s basically not seeing each other monday – thursday night . . . crazy!
November 19th, 2008 at 3:07 pm
I agree with some of the above comments… making a future date to talk so you can look forward to it is key. My bf studied abroad in Spain one summer and then when he came back I went to study abroad in Spain after him for a full 6 months. It was a looong time to be apart, and hard bc of the time difference, but having times to talk was really nice. Best of all though were the random, unexpected emails, snail mail letters and sweet voicemails. It really kept me going!